Rebecca Hagelin's column Fashioning a response to immodest clothing notes that lots and lots of people are fighting to find modest clothing - and finding it. So don't feel alone, and don't give up.
Hagelin says that when a girl comes to her home wearing immodest clothing, she tells them that when they are in her home she wants them to dress in a way that reflects the treasure they are - and then she lets the girl pick out clothes to wear while she's there. Hagelin says they might gasp at first - but then they get it. (Don't laugh. I've seen this work.)
And, a bonus. Girls who switch to dressing with self-respect have the fun of seeing a difference, an improvement, in the way men and boys treat them. (I know. I know. This is so basic it's not funny. But somehow along the way we've raised a lot of girls and women who never got the memo. Obviously.)
Hat tip to Colleen Hammond.
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2 comments:
I'm lucky in my community. The girls seem to opt for baggy, baggy clothes (mostly sweats). Not flattering, but not sexual either, so I hope they're still in vogue as my little one grows up.
Yes, but - it's easier to turn boys and men into gentlemen if you learn to dress like you care, isn't it? The point is not only to not come across as cheap BUT to come across like you have some self-respect. Clothing is only part of the picture, but it's one of the easiest and most obvious ways to advertise that you expect respect. (Or not.)
And, to be clear, I'm not talking about fancy clothes here. I wear jeans as often as not (and rather inexpensive ones at that). But there are jeans and there are jeans, and it matters what tops you put with them...
Besides, at a different level, dressing like a nice girl is just plain fun :)
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